'I would knock on the door': 15-year-friendship is jeopardized over a $60 DJ set

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Feb 22, 2024 1:00 PM EST

Friends and money are a tricky mix. We try our best to keep things fair and square, but if you're hitting the town, it can be hard to keep things straight. I've found that the best path for me is not squabbling over anything under $20. And just try your best to keep things even and fair. You buy me a drink, and I keep that in mind for next time. But lunch money is not worth causing a stir about. My friends are one of the most important parts of my life and I prioritize keeping the peace. 

Of course, though, tough situations are bound to arise, like in this recent Reddit story. It's a complicated one, as Reddit stories go, with a long-held friendship at stake and some pretty erratic behavior. Read on to see what you make of the story, and how you might react if it was your friend. 

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  • 01
    r/mildlyinfuriating u/The_Broken_Shutter • 1d Best friend of 15 years blocks me over money.
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  • 02
    So lets rewind to a few weeks ago. I was on the phone with my buddy talking about hanging out and I saw Dillion Francis was coming. So we both agreed to go. Lets fast forward to the concert date.
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  • 03
    We park, i paid parking drove etc. We get ready to head to the venue and on the way we had a blast. He and i were having a fantastic time talking about everything. He told me how great of a friend I was and how much he appreciates our friendship etc.
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  • 04
    We get to the Venue. Get through the line, i show my ID and they let me in. When hes about to go in they ask for his ID. He didn't have it so they wouldn't let him in. So me being a great friend ate the ticket and the parking spot i bought so that he and I could just go back home. We were thinking about going home and coming back but the timing wouldn't have made it worth it and I didn't want to buy another parking spot as they were $20 or more.
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 05
    He apologized profusely and ensured me that he would pay me back the money for the concert and the parking spot because of his mistake. I was still bummed but i said ok. It shouldn't matter because i paid for insurance so they will take care of it. (They didn't, they said I didn't have a probable cause)
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 06
    We go home hit up a bar and he starts getting quiet. He buys himself a drink and me a drink. We finish and as we are leaving he says hes going to wait in his car while i cleaned up in the restroom. I come outside and hes gone. I call him he said he was tired and he was sorry again.
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  • 07
    Couple days later i explain the ticket insurance wasn't going to cover me not going to the venue. They said i needed documentation of why i missed the concert and it would take 3 months to process the refund even if it did get approved. I reach out to my buddy and say hey man so they said they would possibly deny my refund. He says NO Problem! Send me your venmo and i'll send you some money. I sent it and 2 weeks I heard nothing from him.
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 08
    Lets fast forward to today. He has since blocked me on every social media platform there is. Even XBOX and messaging on the phone. I tried calling and it goes to voicemail first ring. Girlfriend explained to me that it cost me $60 bucks to find out my best friend is actually not a good person or is going through something. It isn't worth chasing because if he was a real friend he'd be talking to you.
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 09
    I made it clear i didn't really care about the money. It would have been nice to get my money back but I feel like i did the right thing. What did I even do? Why would someone ruin your chance at a concert, then apologize say they're going to pay you back, and then block me? I've been friends for almost 15 years.
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 10
    cheviot 1d ● >Girlfriend explained to me that it cost me $60 bucks to find out my best friend is actually not a good person or is going through something. She's right. He's an
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  • 11
    The_Broken_Shutter OP. 1d Just don't understand why someone has that thought process. Either say hey I don't have the money or don't tell me you're going to pay me back when I didn't even ask for it back. He offered so I said ok. That apparently wasn't the answer he was looking for.
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 12
    Modsrbiased. 1d He's embarrassed for some reason likely he's broke and feels bad. When guys are embarrassed they do stupid
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  • 13
    oregon_coastal • 1d ● Not having an ID (who doesn't have a wallet??) and (guessing here) freaking out that he can't pay you back seems like maybe he has something going on. 15 years is a long time. I would knock on the door.
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  • 14
    The_Broken_Shutter OP. 1d Id have to get buzzed in, he lives in a condo/ apartment building. I'll try and check on him as soon as i can. He said he didn't bring his wallet to the concert and just brought cash. Didn't want to lose his wallet while he was intoxicated. He didn't think he would get ID'd. The venue is known for having a strict policy.
    via u/The_Broken_Shutter
  • 15
    PreOpTransCentaur. 1d If your friend was worried about getting so drunk at a concert that he was genuinely afraid to lose his wallet and willing to drive without his license, I believe we've uncovered the thing he's going through.
    via u/PreOpTransCentaur
  • 16
    Clan-Sea 1d ● I know the standard Reddit reaction is "you got off cheap, only $60 to cut that person from your life". It's the least original thought, as seen by it being posted 10x in here and your gf saying it. But I've got a friend like this, and it's not even that he owes us $ (we pay for a meal sometimes and never ask to be paid back). He has substance abuse issues/gambling/general mental health crisis and just goes no contact for months
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  • 17
    , It's not like he's out partying or living it up. He's sat at home depressed as possibly back in rehab, but %100 embarrassed and not ready to face his friends and let them know he up again. We're not mad at him, just hoping he gets over it soon and starts doing better. I text him every time we're doing something together, and this most recent time we haven't seen him for about 3 months. Pretty worried about him, not sure where he's living now. But we're not saying that guy, he's not out friend"
    via u/Clan-Sea
  • 18
    JeanVII 23h ● Yeah, when you have a good rapport of over 15 years, the $60 thing doesn't really apply IMO. Dude is probably going through a hard time. People think that's making an excuse, but it's not an excuse, it's an explanation. People do stupid things when they don't know what else to do. I would reach out.
    via u/JeanVII
  • 19
    RugbyKats. 1d On the chance that your girlfriend is right to say he is "going through something," you might want to find him for at least one last conversation. Tell him his actions were confusing, causing you concern, and that he does not need to worry about the $60. Ask what's going on with him. You can decide where to go with the friendship based on your conversation.
    via u/RugbyKats
  • 20
    The Broken_Shutter OP 1d ● I would prefer this scenario. I want to sit and talk and work it out. Depending on his reaction obviously
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